Today marks my 10th wedding anniversary. My husband and I have had some ups and downs but I can honestly say I’m more in love with him today than I was then. This is one of my favorite pictures from that day. It marks the moment when we “put it on paper”.
Our wedding day was one day but the magic has been in our marriage. We have two wonderful little boys, a life we’re both happy with and proud of as well as a lifetime of love to go. Neither one of us had great images of marriage from our parents, so we’re lucky to have family members who showed us a great example with their love.
My grandparents were married for 53 years until my grandfather’s death while my aunt (now deceased) and uncle were married for 50 years. They had very different marriages looking on from the outside. However, they stayed married because they found what worked for their house. My grandmother was a bossy woman and my grandfather let her be. He was a very calm person to balance her. My aunt and uncle just seemed like a picture perfect. I never really heard them argue but I know they did at some point in time. They just had to right?
My aunt and uncle were among our first visitors once my husband and I were married. We really enjoyed spending time with them back in out first apartment and hearing the talk about their marriage 45 years later. l was spending time with my uncle last week in California and asked him how people fall out of love because I don’t see it. I know we’re busy now but I’m confident that it’ll come back to just he and I again. He shared a fond memory of he and my aunt. He told me she would bring a picnic lunch and they would have lunch in the park when they were at the height of busyness in their lives. They didn’t call it making a date but knew they needed to connect.
Seeing as how they were married for 50 years, I guess I’d better keep that in mind. I’m making sure we keep doing that now that school is back in. The biggest things I’ve learned in my 10 years are do what works for your family and don’t keep score. There are tons of other little things but these are the biggest ones.
What lessons have you learned from your marriage? What are some other things you do to keep connected? I’m all for learning from others experiences.