This post is part of the Fearless Friday series. I’m being fearless in sharing apart of myself with you.
My husband and I will celebrate our 10th wedding anniversary later this year. To say that it’s been wonderful would be an understatement in some ways and overstatement in a lot of ways. We have been through some wonderful events (buying our first home, births of 2 great boys, career successes) as well as some challenges (health challenges, job loss). But when I think back over the past 10 years, I have to reflect on why I got married.
If I had to point to one reason why I married my husband it would be that he and I had similar values and goals for our family. I think he wanted 5 kids and I settled on 2.5 but when we talked about how we’d live our lives, we were pretty much on the same path. I remember in the early days, he never told me no. One time I asked him why, didn’t he ever have an opinion. He replied that he didn’t need to; most of the time he’d make the same decision that I would. This is one of those things that has clearly changed. My husband loves to sway my opinion.
My husband is hands down in my biggest supporter and I feel like he has been ever since we met. We met in college because our friends dated. When they were engaged, we reconnected as best man/maid of honor in their wedding. From our first conversation on a rainy Monday night (I skipped a grad school class to talk with him), he’s just been a great friend.
I say he’s my biggest support and a great friend because he always wants the best for me and has never shied away from giving me real answers. If I ask his opinion, I need to be prepared to hear his honest opinion and critique. I really appreciate that because it’s helped me grow as a person. I pride myself on making now logical and balanced decisions. Not to say I never make emotional choices but these are a lot further in between than they used to be.
In addition to how he supports me, he really supports our family. We don’t have a written mission statement but I think we live it in raising children who are productive members of society and supporting each other to be our best every day. I feel like he does that and hope he feels like I do the same for him.
Our courtship was very rushed and I truly wouldn’t be surprised if people made bets on how long we’d stay married but as we celebrate 10 years, I wouldn’t have married anyone else. We have successfully grown together and I am a very happy wife.
This post was inspired by a prompt from the Happy Wives Club Blogger Tour. Fawn Weaver, the founder of the Happy Wives Club wrote a book about the best marriage secrets the world has to offer. A very dear girlfriend of mine (and happy wife in her own right!) shared a copy with me. You can grab a copy HERE!