Parenting is hard. Step-parenting is even harder. Luckily when you know better, you do better. The devotional, Step Parenting with Grace, is one of the first steps in helping you do better. It provides gentle encouragement and thoughtful reflection with simple daily readings that can help make step-parenting a little easier.
When I became a stepmother, I was 26 years old. And my stepdaughter was 12. I didn’t have children of my own and all of the sudden, here I was with a pre-teen. Because I was a stepdaughter, I wanted to do things differently and be everything I wished mine would have been. I wanted to be a friend, I wanted her to like me. At the same time, I also wanted to honor my husband’s wishes of how she should be raised. Add in that her mother had different impressions and it could have been a very messy situation.
Luckily, our situation didn’t turn out horrible. Now, she’s an adult and we have a so-so relationship. I hope over the years it will grow to be a better one. She’s lived with us at different points in time and has a great relationship with her brothers.
Honestly, I made tons of mistakes along the way. Even after having my own children. Unless you’ve done it before, becoming a stepparent is a difficult role to step into. It’s this in-between role where you’re kind of responsible for this child (or young adult depending on their age). They (and you) are aware that they don’t have the same family relationship that can never be broken. Depending on when you enter their life, they may have had promises broken and be extra wary of you.
Step Parenting with Grace
All that to say, you really need God’s Grace when you create a new family. Step Parenting with Grace is the book that I wished I had as a new stepmother. People gave me The Power of a Praying Wife and this would have been an awesome addition as well. I liked it because it begins with a Theme, gives a centering scripture, short devotion, Thought for the Day and prayer. Each devotional is just 2 pages and can easily be read in less than 5 minutes.
The devotional titles/themes cover all aspects of stepparenting from “The Calling of a Stepparent”, “Taking Care of Yourself”, “The Love of a Grandparent”, “Your Marriage Counts” and “The Power of Boundaries.” With more than 90 different ones, there is sure to be at least one that will inspire and support you along the stepparenting journey.
Another reason that Step Parenting With Grace really spoke to me is that it acknowledges the challenge in blending families together without judgement. As a woman of faith, I am constantly trying to be better. Some things are hard. It doesn’t mean that you’re not praying for a change or trying to be the change you see in yourself. It just means that you’re human and working through you concerns.
I highly recommend you pick up a copy and/or consider gifting a copy to a stepfamily. Even though my stepdaughter no longer lives with us, I found lots of inspiration for reflection of how to improve our relationship in the future. They were just simple thoughts that help me see things from a different way.
Step Parenting with Grace : About the Author
Gayla Grace is the director and co-founder of Sisterhood of Stepmoms, a non-profit organization designed to create community and provide national retreats for stepmothers. She holds a master’s degree in Psychology and Counseling and founded StepparentingWithGrace.com more than a decade ago to offer coaching services, resources, and other encouragement to step-families. Gayla and her husband, Randy, have five children in their blended family.